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But, you cannot overcome a sex addiction by trying to escape your sexually addictive desires because they are directly tied to your sex drive and you won't be able to successfully repress your sex drive over the long run.
A further example of why conventional licensed therapy and the 12-step program fail in dealing with sex addiction is that their approaches advise the use of HALT.
Here are a few typical ways a sexually addicted person is advised to repress his addictive desires: Stay away from the Internet.
Don't read anything or watch movies that might be sexually stimulating.
One thing I've learned is that beating yourself up does not help. As a seasoned addiction counselor, I know that you will be tempted to lie to yourself and/or your partner or me about your addiction.
Instead of beating yourself up or concluding that you're hopeless, use your discovery of this website and my free e-book as an opportunity to expand your knowledge so that you get the control over this very troubling problem you've struggled with most of your life. Anyone who tells you that overcoming a porn addiction, compulsive masturbation, infidelity, or promiscuity is easy is not someone to be trusted. But what I can do, and what the Most Personal Addiction can do, is help you overcome the temptation to lie to yourself and your partner or me about your sex addiction.
Approaches based on guilt mongering and scare tactics will not help the sex addict get control. Retribution and humiliation can achieve short term success.
Long term success requires a positive approach that encourages and supports the addicted person's efforts to stop. Advice that works Conventional licensed therapy and the 12-step program rely on various forms of repression to try to overcome sex addiction.
Despite the years and years of lies the addicted person may have told himself and others, he can stop lying. The addicted person does need medication, meetings, or years of therapy analyzing his childhood to stop lying.
When you feel an addictive desire, go to the gym and do an exhausting workout. Or take psychological medication to squelch the desire.
All these and other forms of repression basically advise the addict to try to get away from his or her addictive desire.
If you've felt that you're worthless because you didn't succeed at overcoming a sex addiction, you're mistaken. Success in overcoming sex addiction depends on three factors.
Failure occurs when any one of these three factors are not properly developed. Honesty Most sexually addicted people lie to themselves and/or their partner about their sexually addictive activities.